The bond that you share with your spouse after you have had a baby is an entirely different one. You feel closer, you feel more in love and needless to say, you want to be intimate with each other. However, considering that the woman’s body is still raw from the delivery, there are a few things to consider before you have sex after pregnancy.
Comfort and healing are the key factors to keep in mind before you get intimate. Your doctor will definitely prescribe a period of abstinence depending upon your condition post birth.
Even when you are ready for sex after delivery, here are 15 things to know about sex after delivery so that you can enjoy these intimate moments and stay safe as well:
Ideally, you should wait for at least 4 to 6 weeks before you have sex after pregnancy. The chances of uterine infection or postpartum hemorrhage are higher in this period. You must also make sure that the woman is comfortable and is not too stressed or fatigued before you try.
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Since the vagina is tender at this point, sex can be painful. However, by choosing a position that helps you control penetration, using enough lubrication or by consulting your doctor about medication that can make it less painful, you can avoid the discomfort.
There is no doubt that postpartum sex is very different. However, having sex after delivery can actually make it a lot easier for the woman to deal with the changes that her body has gone through, in terms of appearance. This is also a crazy time for the couple and sex can be a great way to reignite the romance.
The most important of the 15 things to know about sex after delivery is sex does not have to involve penetration after pregnancy for both of you to enjoy it. You can try foreplay or manual stimulation to begin with. The reason is that the woman may need to increase her sex drive before actually enjoying the intercourse.
There is an old wives’ tale that you will not get pregnant if you are breastfeeding or if you have not started your period yet. However, this is a myth and you must make sure that you talk to your doctor about the various options for birth control available after delivery. The safest options are a diaphragm or a condom to take precaution after pregnancy.
Sex will be different after pregnancy. But this is not meant in any bad way. The vagina is looser after a natural birth which will change the vaginal pressure. This may not feel very different either. In fact, it can ease the process for most women. If you are experiencing a lot of urine leakage after delivery, make sure that you consult your doctor.
Doing Kegel exercises is a great way to bring your vagina back to normal after delivery. You can also try methods like pelvic floor therapy in order to work on the muscles in the pelvic floor after childbirth.
Although it is believed that most women lose their sex drive after delivery, the truth is quite contrary. The libido after delivery will vary from one woman to another. So, it is best that you do not worry about how the experience will be and just ease into it.
This is the hard truth that you must face after you have had a baby. All it needs is a slight whimper from your baby to snap out of the moment and rush to him or her. Don’t let this frustrate you and you must understand that parenting instinct will be extremely strong at this point.
This can happen. For many fathers, the whole delivery room scene can be very scary and can lead to a sense of fear when it comes to sex. This has to be dealt with a lot of patience. Take time to help him get over that visual and show him how wonderful your moments together can be.
This has nothing to do with the appearance of the breasts. The fact is that since the woman is nursing, the breasts may ooze out milk during sex which might make them less appealing to some men. It can even make the woman uncomfortable. So patience is the key and learning to work your way around such situations is the best approach. After a few such instances, you will figure out what works for the two of you.
While some men might find it hard to get over the delivery room trauma, for others, making love to the mother of their child is a delightful experience. The woman becomes more desirable as she has just had his baby.
You need to take more precautions after pregnancy in case of a C-section. You need to make sure that you do not apply too much pressure on the area as it can be tender for quite some time.
Women will feel slightly body conscious at this time. However, this is quite normal. Talk to your partner about it and work your way through these emotions to enjoy sex better.
With the baby needing your attention all the time, you will have to actually schedule your time to have sex. For instance, when the baby is asleep or perhaps after the late night feed. This may sound strange but with the pressures of parenting, you will have to set time aside for your intimate moments.
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