As nuclear families are becoming the norm, with both parents working – more and more couples are limiting their family to just one kid. When women conceive, their career usually takes a back seat. Some quit their jobs, which sometimes puts a financial strain on the couple.
When you plan to have two kids, mommies have to sacrifice their career – not once but twice. And with the rising cost of living – if you have two kids, it’s double the expenditure, which can be a huge burden on the parents.
Let’s see why having one child works well!
“When you have one child, you’re a parent – but when you have two, you’re a referee.”
This popular saying could not be more true! Younger siblings feel really bad when they have to use books and clothes that have been previously used by their elder siblings. Jealousy is a very common feeling that can be seen in siblings. If you plan to have only one child then you don’t have to deal with episodes like, “Mummy loves you more than me”, or “Papa got you new clothes so I have to go shopping too”.
At times, it is really difficult to strike a balance between two kids. Many times, one child needs more attention than the other and that’s when your other child will feel ignored. Younger children are often neglected unknowingly and they feel unwanted. Since each child is different, there’s always a brighter one and the other one automatically begin to feel inferior. Some parents really have a hard time juggling between two kids.
But is it really a good idea to have a small family? Let’s see…
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While it might be easier to provide the best of everything to one kid; you are definitely depriving your child the love and lifelong companionship of a sibling.
Siblings have trouble during the younger years, but become each other’s lifelong friends and play a unique role in each other’s lives later on. Things that you learn from siblings cannot be taught by anyone else.
Many factors play a crucial role in deciding how many kids one should have. These include your circumstances, career, help at home, physical health of the mother and the ability to take care of more than one kid. At the end of the day, it is completely your choice whether to have one child or more than one. And remember mommies, there is no right or wrong decision. The one that suits your family is the best one for you!!
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