In a world that is perfect and flawless, we would all love to be moms who are always happy, cheerful, and fun. However, since the world is not perfect, neither are we!
Every mother is often caught between her two sides – Fun and Loving Vs. Angry and Strict. The worst part is, that every time the angry side surfaces, it never leaves you without guilt, even when you know that being the ‘Angry Mom’ was inevitable in that situation. No one ever said that parenting was going to be easy! But you only realise how tough it is when you actually become a parent.
When you scream at your child in the moment of frustration and your little one looks at you with those big eyes welling up with tears, it can be truly heartbreaking. That being said, you need to know when to stop the unacceptable behavior and make sure that it never happens again.
If you are constantly torn between being the fun and the angry parent and are wondering whether you are doing the right thing; just know that it is normal. The fact that you want to be less angry and more fun, the fact that you try every day, should be enough to tell you that you are a good parent.
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Imagine this scenario. You are feeding your child and trying your best to get him to eat. The fun mom in you is making airplane noises as you get the food to the child’s mouth, probably trying some role-play or using toys to get the child to eat. The next instant, your child deliberately knocks down the bowl of food in anger!
This is when the angry mom in you comes in action. Of course, it is frustrating to have the extra cleaning to do when you are already running behind schedule. You give your child a scolding and he ends up bawling.
After a while, you feel pangs of guilt taking over. These are the two faces of mom who is caring and strict, rolled into one. The question is – Is this the way parenting works? And the answer is yes!
There is no set formula for parenting to work. One moment it is all good and in the next, you mess it up. However, the idea is to learn, manage, adapt, and evolve through your journey as a parent.
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Whenever you start feeling guilty for being an angry mom here are some things that you need to remember:
There are few things that you can do to reduce the stress that you feel and to ensure that your child does not get affected by these angry bursts that you have once in a while:
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Everyone wishes to be the fun parent. Here are some ways you can help your child to see more of that side:
The bottom line is that you cannot help but have these two faces as a mom. Do not be too hard on yourself and remember that children move on from these negative experiences quite easily as long as you are willing to work on it.
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